It’s time- and it’s finally happening. You’ve had the late nights and long talks, and now you’re ready to get engaged. Congratulations! Now comes the fun part: the search for THE ring of your dreams. It’s 2021 and now more than ever women (and men!) want a say in their engagement ring. After all, YOU are the one who will be wearing it every day for years to come and you deserve exactly what you want. Here are a few ways to bring this up with your partner, while still keeping the proposal surprising and fun, even when you have an idea of what the ring will look like!
1. Honesty is the Best Policy!
A lot of Partners have a very traditional idea of what a proposal should look like: a Round diamond solitaire and a complete surprise! If this is what you want, thats absolutely perfect for you! If not, the best way to counteract this is to simply tell them you have some fun ideas and you want to be involved. We think it’s super special to make this big decision as a team. 90% of our couples shop together, and here at VB, our entirely female-led team agrees- we all want a say in our rings!
2. It’s FUN!
Coming to our showroom and trying on all these beautiful pieces is a very special moment and if you are not a part of the ring selection process, you may never get this opportunity again. Plenty of people think about and anticipate this exact situation years in advance! Make a day date out of coming to the showroom together, drinking a little champagne, and going home giddy about this next step.
3. Want to leave the final decision up to your partner? We’ve got you covered.
A great way to let your partner have the final say in your ring while still communicating what you want is to narrow it down to 2-3 rings you absolutely LOVE. Make sure you would be thrilled with any of your top few rings and let them choose! You will still be surprised when they propose, and your partner will be so happy they chose a ring you love (less stress for them)!
4. Phone a Friend
Have some strong opinions but don’t want to know anything about your impending proposal? Easy. Pick a friend you trust or a parent and tell them everything about which ring is right for you (INCLUDING YOUR RING SIZE)! Show pictures, even bring them in with you for an appointment so they absolutely know what vibe you want for your ring. Send that person over to your partner and trust that they understand your vision!
5. Drop a Hint!
Go to the Victor Barboné website, select any ring you love, and hit “drop a hint” to send it right to your partner! You can also create an account and a favorites list and conveniently send your top VB picks with all their details straight to your future fiance!
We know that couples come in all shapes and sizes and that each relationship is unique! A proposal is not one size fits all, and there is no right or wrong way to pop the question or choose a ring! What’s right for you may not be right for another couple and that’s part of what makes your individual story so special.
“Before I got into the business, my now husband asked me if I wanted to be part of the process in choosing my ring and I was so happy he asked me! I was there to pick out and pay for the ring, and then my husband picked it up and created a wonderful surprise proposal! I wouldn’t change a thing”
-Andria Rogers, Owner and Founder of Victor Barboné